Thread: Spanking - okay or not?

Originally posted by wajaba
I dare you not to laugh.

wajaba

OMG!! This was hilarious!! I'm at work at I have tears rolling down my face laughing so hard.

I think though that some of this stuff shouldn't be taken literally.

Although I do remember talking back to my mom once. She pulled the technique called Leap Frog. She leaped across the kitchen floor and choked the $hit out of me. Needless to say I never spoke back again. I couldn't believe how fast she was.

For what it's worth, I just ran across this:

"Never raise your hand to your children-it leaves your midsection unprotected."
- Robert Orben

None of this for me when we have kids. I attended a private H.S. where this was done to me with a board. It really hurt. It was really humiliating to be a teen age girl getting paddled by a male principal.

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I agree. If you haven't won the battle of wills by the time they're teenagers, it's too late anyway. I may have sounded like I'm some ham-handed kid puncher, but that's far from the truth. The real beauty in the approach I advocated earlier is that once you have established completely and unequivocally who's in charge, you almost never have to spank. The sure knowledge, in a child's mind, that you will if necessary, is enough. My daughter is eleven. It's been at least seven or eight years since she's been spanked. But, and this is key, she still knows I would if she ever forced the issue.

BTW, she's a straight-A student in a very competitive Catholic School (there's a two year waiting list in some grades). She is very well adjusted; plays two sports, sings in the choir at our parish, and has a multitude of friends-- and not just in her own grade. Little kids flock to her. She's a GREAT kid. And, she's not the least bit fearful of her parents. She respects them though.

Having been raised by a father who was a little too eager (actually a LOT too eager) with the punishments, I watched some of my older siblings raise their kids in the exact opposite style, in a sort of delayed teenage rebellion. I wouldn't even consider duplicating my Dad's methods, but, I will say this; we all turned out OK. No drug problems, drop outs, etc. Of the next generation in my family that is being raised with a self-service feel-good cafeteria-style discipline plan, all sorts of new problems are cropping up. Drugs, dropping out, etc. Others of my siblings (there's a bunch of us), who are are raising their kids mores strictly, haven't had these kinds of problems.