The reason I said this is because if you go to ELEMENTARY SCHOOL functions and you are in your late 50's early 60's...the OTHER KIDS ASSUME YOUR "GRANDPARENTS"... The older you get the HARDER it is to keep up...
I have to agree with you GEORGE... My mother had me when she was 40 and I always felt like I was growing up with GRANDMA! Ironically, I am 34 now with no children and my clock is ticking so loudly that I just want to put it in the middle of a busy road and let a MACK truck run over it!!! I keep saying that we should wait until we have more money or until we get that better job or until we get the house... but at that rate I'll never have any children!
It depends on how you look at it. I would have to say that through my early twenties, I was waiting on being financially secure, blah, blah, blah. I am 32 years old, divorced, with 2 1/2 and 3/12 year old girls. Shoe Doggy.....God, Grant me the Serenity....and so on. I believe that it is more difficult physically (to bounce back) and more emotionally and financially to deal with the older you get. My friends now have children who are in their teens. My friends have also regained their figures will I look like Mrs. Potato Head. But, at any age, they are a gift from God. They are yours and you carried them in your body and your created them (essentially)!! They will drive you crazy and they will fulfill your life. Go Girl!!
So, since my son will start school when I'm 48, I'm a goner????? There's no hope for me??? Children are a blessing at any age!
This message is for momof5. God bless you, and He will help you. Your children are fortunate to have parents who love them. Imagine having your first at 23 and the second at 43! It is truly challenging. I thought about you when you said you'd be able to live your life at 44. I thought I was free at 41, and I was, for a while. But nature had other ideas. I guess I thought I'd never have another child, but always wanted to. I guess I just didn't believe the doctor when he told me I was pregnant. Something inside me wanted to get to know this late-life baby. He is strong-willed, and I believe he's been here before, but he's a darling and I love him dearly. My destiny is forever changed. I will not be free now until I'm 61, but life is what it is, and my baby was born for a reason. Good luck and hang in there!
Never is a good age. I thought having em early, age 24, would be good. It was good, beibg free at 42 is great, except I know have 2 girls in college and myself. We are lucky that both of the girls have good jobs that pay for their education. Now one daughter wants to go to SMU, about 32k a year. I'm just glad that they have the good jobs. Charlie
The younger you are when you become a parent, the sooner you get to the biggest -best- most wonderful benefit of being a parent-- BEING A GRANDPARENT!
mary I too did the same thing . Iahve a son 21 and a three year old. I love them both dearly. It sort of a blast but scary also. I thougth I'd travel around the world at forty five because I would have no children at home. But I guess me and the boy can do some traveling
when you are 20 years, 3 months, 5 days , 4 hours, 3 minutes, 24 seconds old. hehe j/k..when you have kids is when you should have kids. confused? ;p
Mary, I appreciate the thoughts! I have ensured that I cannot have anymore! LOL My children are 17, 15, 14, 13, and 9. 1 Senior, 2 Freshman, 1 7th grade and 1 4th. I often wonder how my mom did it with 5! I spend $250 a week at the grocery store. I make good money but am always broke. Everytime I turn around there is something else they "need"! I agree they are blessings. My brother and his wife have tried for children the past 12 years. Nada. Also, they keep me busy. Most can't believe that I have any kids, much less 5! I am 5'4" and weigh between 110 and 115. I wear a size 2. Parts of me refuses to grow up (LOL) so my hair is blonde, straight and down past my waist. I am often mistaken for my daughter (until I smile and they see my wrinkles!!!). I am glad that I did not wait. I don't know what I would do if I had a baby now! I am often tired when I get home from work. Once a month I am on-call and barely see anyone that week! But, in the end, to each his own!
Dani. I was just getting ready to turn out the light when I thought of you. I am taking a class on Tuesdays and in about 12 or 16 weeks.. I hope you will "discuss" with me again. You know to what I refer. I read just a little about your "baby" thread and quickly want to tell you a couple of things. 1. I heard on a news magazine that a womens eggs begin to detererate at around age 28. If you wait to long. it might be TO LONG and also your success of a pregnancy and healthy baby are lessoned. 2. I am a 36 year old mother of two daughters age 16 and soon to be 14. Other than the financial sacrifices we have made (and continue to make) being a young mother was the right thing for me then and now. I married at 18 and C.J. was born just before my 21st birthday. I am one of the lucky ones of marriage. I think we actually have more differences these days than when we were young. My older brother ( 40) has a baby that is just a year old. His wife is 12 years his jr.. but when I look at the picture, diapers, crying.. ect.. I am glad I'm past that and enjoying the now. Cherie
I think about this question alot... I too think, we will have kids when I get out of school (of course most people don't spend 12 years in college like me, get our careers going, get stabilized financially and make some money, buy a house, etc. etc. Although my biological clock isn't keeping me up at night, sometimes I get a little anxious cause I am aware that the ACTUAL clock is ticking away. I'm often afraid by the time we get all of the things we need to create a "financially and emotionally stable" home for kids... it will be too little, too late.
......hmmmm, couldn't tell you, but what I can tell you is that there is a good chance you'll be raising them the rest of your life.......no matter what age you have those precious little devils...:}
