I HAD to post when I heard this. I've been lurking since I've stopped posting and have been using the board's advice. I understand your predicament completely. I had a mother that made Joan Crawford look like Alice in Wonderland. Don't listen to the people that don't believe you. It's hard to be in a family full of crazies and find your way clear. I would consult an attorney if you can afford it. Take all of your evidence and let them handle it. I am sure that when the credit card company sees the evidence that they will call the fraud charges into question. In fact, my ex boyfriend did something like this, and the bank didn't even question the fraud. He wrote out some checks for services and goods (one of which was my child's private school-AFTER the check had cleared HIS bank) and then decided to go shopping with the money instead. He then called the bank and reported that the checks had been stolen(never mind that he had signed and presented them ALL). The bank took him at his WORD. If they had done the most obvious of things and even checked the signature, they would have seen that it was his. Checking the fingerprints would have further proven that he was lying. I paid the money back to the school myself in cash while he went on a shopping spree-it was Christma, natch! By the way, I had deposited MY money into the account. I never got it back. The school offered to file charges against him for the fraud which we COULD prove, but I chose not to. Being 87 has nothing to do with it. My grandmother was as cunning and ruthless right up to the day she died, at 92. And your grandfather had help from his daughter, so he's not alone in this. They'll both be facing possible jail time for their roles in it. Once it is all over and done, remove them both from your life. I wish I had done so instead of listening to my "friends" about family and all that. Funny how I should stay around be cause she was my mother, but she treated my like a slave- I was her daughter!It would have saved me money, heartbreak and betrayal. Not to mention the therapy. And remember this: Family will f*ck you first.
