As most of you know we purchased our first home this past summer and all the yards run into each other, for now there is no fencing bewteeen yards, the closet neighbors are unbeileveable We have 3 children, they have 2 and there is another boy next to them, at first they all played together, but after a few weeks, my children decided it was best to stay clear of them. They curse, and tease my younger son when his older brother isn't around. This has been going on for months, and I try to tell my children to just ignore them, but I know it can be frustrating. We choose simply not to speak with them ( parents) and so far I thought it was working. I try to stay in the yard with my children, but it's pretty sad they can't even go into their on your and play on their own, they are 14 and 11. This past weekend, the mother came over and complained that my oldest was playing with a bat and ball and her daughter may get hit, we AGREED and prior to her coming over we told my son no batting, so we agreed and that was that. Well just 2 days later her son is hitting the ball directly in my yard where my 3 year old is playing and the parents are right there!!!! My husband calmly goes over and talks with the husband, he immediately jumps into my husbands face and starts an arguement, stating he doesn like us or our children, ( well feeeling is mutual), then states his children do no wrong they just play and mind their own business etc. I go over b/c my husband has a short fuse and try to convince him that apparently this man can't have an illeligent conversation, I also said look my children aren't angels themselves, and neither are yours, he walks away buts shout for me to shut up and calls me an "f" ing b$tch. Well of course my husband went after him but I held him back and got him into the house, the next day the wife tries to make small chit chat and my husband states what happened and says her husband should apologize, he comes out and says no that's what your wife is!!!!!! Honestly I know what they are trying to do, they are trying to make my husband so angry that he pops him one and then they charge him the assault. I keep trying to calm him down and this man keeps egging him on. I hate living like this. Now everyone has recommened a large privacy fence, which in time I hope to be able to afford, but I guess I am just venting and need to see if anyone has gone through such a horrible experience And what to do in the meantime, until I can afford a fence. I did find out after the fact that we are the 4th owners of this house, geeze you don't think it could be the neighbors....... Thanks for listening
Mom, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. What a nightmare. And I thought our neighbors and their motor home parked on our property was bad. I would be happy to donate to Momof3's Privacy Long Fence fund to get the project started. Unfortunately, I don't see any other recourse. Dani
Ooooh Mom! YUCK!!!!! You're right. Don't let your husband touch that guy. That's what they want. How awful that people can be so indecent.
You can either take this as an example of what you can do, or you can be happy they aren't this guy =) http://www.knology.net/~carlos/redneck.htm
Hey mom, you need to go to your local city cthouse and have them issue an order prohibiting harassment. It is basically the same thing as a restraining order. Then the next time this moron starts something, just call the cops and have him spend the next night in a little holding cell. He'll calm down after that.
I LOVED IT...but I spent too much time having to go back where I was after each picture... And the last thing didn't work for me....
Did it on IE and downloaded what it asked for...I have cable...rotten picture??? Still loved everything else!!!
I agree, look into contacting your local law enforcement and make sure ALL incidents get reported. You want a trail of incidents and a record of dates etc. no matter what. It may end up being your only defense later on if something does develop that goes over the edge. You may find there are already complaints on these people. Ask them what recourse you have according to the laws in your area. I'm so sorry this has happened. I know it's not easy. My mom has nice neighbors but man are they PIGS. Their crap is just about knocking her fence over and she doesn't have the money to rebuild it. Makes me crazy but she won't let me contact the city or anything. Another thing people have done is get their camcorders out and tape the guy being an A$$. If you ever have to go to court, (hopefully not) you'll have proof positive of this guys verbal abuse to show a judge. I'd keep my distance. Stay quiet and work on getting support from the right sources should things get out of hand. Good luck!!
You got a spare bedroom...and I need a vacation... People at work call me the "BOUNCER" on occasion...
Oh Boy! This is horrible! I'd definitely look into a fence!! We were pricing fences for our yard. One neighbor is willing to split the costs with us. I'm working on the other two. Maybe you can save some dough that way as well?
Funny, I just saw on the TV Guide preview channel that "48 hours" is having a segment on "bad neighbors" tonight. Don't know if it will offer any tips but here's their site: http://www.cbsnews.com/sections/48hours/main3410.shtml Couldn't hurt to just watch and maybe get some advice.
I'VE been thinking about you Hi Mom - what a complete pain - but look at it from my perspective reading this email in San Francisco: Two families are fighting, causing the kids to fight, and round and round. It's your OWN PLACE M! But even though your family is probably in the right, its worth it just backing down and letting them bitch. Maybe a good way to get everybody defused is to get an outside toy or volleyball net or badmitton or whatever. THEN, invite the beasts next door to participate in some fun games together. You won't love each other, but you need to get out of this micro situation to relook at it. This would remove anger from everyone concerned, then the beast would probably apologize for his crap later. The duall activity could be in your yard and the others could come over. best personal regards as you know - dogman arooo - no fence - arf arf arf - trees ?? DO YOU HAVE A DOG?????
Safyre... Hey this guy is in the city I am in!!! Thats hillarious! Mom, my buddy moved into his new house with one of those community backyards and I know they suck. Get the fence it will cost less than the legal bills.
When I was a kid I remember living in neighborhoods and hearing the parents squabble. Kids can be very cruel hopefully things will improve. Kids usually work things out faster than adults. Sending luck your way. NG who enjoys country living
I AM OVER HERE DYING!!!! I can't believe that guy did a web site about his neighbors. I have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard. Mom....this is sad! I am so sorry. Do you plan on staying at that house for a long time? If so, then I would try to find a way to make the peace....maybe do what Dogman suggested. A girlfriend of mine had a similar problem with some new neighbors that moved in next to her. Apparently the wife was feeling threatened by my friend (and her new breast implants) and thought that her husband was checking my friend out. So my friend went over and introduced her and her kids to these people and brought them a welcome to the neighborhood package. Now they are friends. This might be too late for your situation but hopefully you can work something out. Good luck!
I cannot help thinking about the girl in the neighborhood, with breast implants, delivering a welcome to the neighborhood message LOL! That doesn't happen in SF - as you know aaarrrrffff - dogman
BTW that page is now DOWN because of Creditnet! (haha) After all the lurkers and regulars here clicked the link the counter on that page was jumping astronomically. Now knology has took that page down. Oh well if anyone needs it I emailed it so I still have it.
