Spanking - okay or not?

I condone spanking in moderation.

 

It depends upon the child. For some, an appropriate swat on the backside teaches the appropriate lesson. However, there are some like my 3rd who did not respond as expected. I took that child (who is ADHD) and put him on timeout. He hated it. This got the proper response. (Proper response means change of negative behavior.)

While disciplining my children I do explain WHY their behavior was bad and why they should change it. I hated "because I said so". No, they don't understand at first, but years down the road they will because it is repeated so much.

like the line we all hated: If your friend jumped off a bridge would you follow? When I was young, I didn't get it. As I aged, I understood.

Make sense?

 

Spanking is a quick fix to an otherwise irritated individual. Great Topic Btw!. Lets try this in prospective. No adult would repimand in a physical way another co-worker/elder parent if they didnt "approve"of their behavior. We might speak of it directly to them as inappropriate yet we realize that to strike/spank another violates them. What difference does it make if its a child? Somewhere along the way a child is considered "subhuman'?? A "property" to be dealt with? The goal of the guardian is to define safe and acceptable behavior...surely demonstrating spanking sends the message that "your body is not valued or respected".Actions sometimes speak louder then any words.

 

SPANKING STUDY~~~

TIME OUT~~~HIGHER CHANCE FOR JAIL PER A GIVEN POPULATION vs. SPANKED KIDS.

 

George, care to share where this study was taken from? I'd be interested in reading up on it and how long the study was based on. Thanks for your feedback!

 

Here is my view. Spanking (not beating) works for some kids and doesn't for others. I think that the key is to NOT spank because you are angry. My kids have never been spanked (unless you count a little tap on the hand for messing with the frosting on the cake LOL), because other forms of punishment work for my kids. I do not think that a child needs to be in physical pain because they were out of line. My kids know I have had it just by the look in my eye. I do not have to say a word, off to their room they go. In short, I do not need to spank my kids at this point, if my punishment now stopped working I may consider it. AGAIN NOT TO SATISFY MYSELF.

BTW-I was spanked alot as a kid. By my Mom as punishment and by my Dad out of his anger. There is a difference there. Kids can tell the difference, I could.

Interesting. I think it is the other way around. Assaults and child abuse would be on the rise.

BTW2- In our house a big rule is keep your hands to yourself. If you make 'em you can't break 'em.

 

Ohnostuck, I enjoyed your commentary! The parental "LOOK" does indeed work! My mom used it all the time! Thanks for sharing that tidbit. Its amazing the things we inadvertantly inherit from our parents. Fortunately I, like most were given the "spare the rod".."spoil the child" treatment and perhaps that solidifies my beleif that it didnt work...instead I learnt from their mistakes and found more constructive methods to discipline. One being..The LOOK! )

 

I prefer spanking my wife but she is not into that stuff- or anything else either now that I think about it.

 

My mom used to spank us and I don't think it had a negative effect on us.

I have never ( and will never ) spank my kids. Where is the line between spanking and abuse? There is always another way to discipline a child.

 

I was spanked as a child although I don't think it is a method that I would use. I am not against spanking personally by any means however I would hope that my words and feelings of disapointment would be enough.











If not.. KAPOWWWWW

 

I was spanked gently - at home and at school - it was the humiliation that taught you the lesson, and you DID learn your lesson. I recommend it. When done in the RIGHT way, not to hurt or injure. It is no more hurtful than to be stood in a corner or sit with a dunce cap on for all to see. It's just a reminder that is less forgetable than a stern talking to. I believe that if more kids of this generation had been spanked, there would be less violence in this world today. And I don't want to hear the bleeding hearts say that spanking is violence, because I already stated that if done GENTLY, it works wonders.
Anna

 

Oh, and by the way , I watched the Ananda Lewis show TODAY, and "they" said that if you don't close your commode seat before you flush it, that the germs from within can be whooshed out up to 20 feet!!!!!! Onto your toothbrush, cup, shower, anything witnin range. Just a warning.
Anna Thought you'd like to know. There's a new rule in MY house.

 

I think its completely ok to have a few poop germs in your toothbrush. It keeps your immune system working.

More poopy germs for everyone!!!


LOL.. ok its late I havn't slept well in a few days so I am a little off

 

Techman,

Maybe it did effect you and you do not know it. Maybe that is the reason that you have never (and will never) spank yours.

 

The poop germs reminded me of what a smart little man at work once said - "Second-hand smoke is God's way of weeding out the weak in the population."

 

Interesting. I think it is the other way around. Assaults and child abuse would be on the rise.

WERE TALKIN' SPANKING ON THE BUTT/DIAPER NOT ABUSE!!!

 

I believe in spanking, I think it is the best way to train a child that some behaviors will result in a negative outcome. I think that this is a very serious subject that should be STUDIED by anyone who is a parent or plans to be a parent. You must know the difference between correction and abuse, and never cross the line. I believe a switch is the best method it smarts like fire with very little physical force and is not likely to cause permanent damage like a hand, paddle, or belt can.

 

My father was always spanked as a child (when he did something wrong), he is an oustanding man, he treats my mother like GOLD, he always provided for me and my mother and we NEVER went without. Now my fathers brother (younger) was NEVER spanked, he has a 16 year old child he has seen maybe twice, he signed his rights over about 10 years ago, he has been in jail MANY times DUI,theft, grand theft auto, drug use. In fact he just got out in May this year.
I was spanked as a child (only child), I was a very ruthless teen and thought it was the most horrible thing (I was SLAPPED until I was about 15), I wasn't BEAT, my 400 pound dad made sure it was the last time I did THAT wrong. I believe I am more responsible because of it.
Now, I have a 3 year old and a 5 year old, they only get spankings if it's HORRIBLE, most of the time I throw out a toy.
I think spanking depends on the circumstance.